This last week has been a very interesting one.
Between some situations that had taken place within my personal life and me noticing more negativity on social media than usual, I definitely saw many of things differently this week.
The main one that has been lying heavily on my mind this week has all boiled down to perception.
For starters before I dig way deeper than I probably plan on digging, I want to touch on the perception of happiness.
I kept coming across certain quotes that had stated you shouldn't be doing something if you aren't passionate about it and others that stated you must work really hard and deal with the bullshit to achieve the happiness you desire.
Now, I am all about trying to keep things as simple as possible, but on the other hand, we are not all created the same. We all are insanely unique and will always see things differently than the person next to us. We thrive on emotions. We latch on to emotion (good and bad). We gravitate towards those like-minded to us because when we agree with someone else's statements, emotions, or situations, we will be inspired to compare ourselves and do as they are doing.
I was an EXTREMELY bitter and angry person growing up and almost 90% of the time, any outcome matched that mode. As I started to change my environment and place myself around more positive and passionate people, that became the latest result. Simple, right?
For one, it didn't happen over night and not everyday was it that I felt that way. Plus, I still was lacking a major portion...what I wanted...what I was "passionate" about. Let's be honest, I just didn't know me.
So, in the beginning, I was easily influenced. I was feeling so high on positive emotions that I began to want what all of the "like-minded" people around me wanted. I was "happy."
...But then all of a sudden I wasn't.
I was chasing a purpose and a plan that would make me "happy" because others said that's how to be successful, this is what a happy life looks like and if you follow these steps, you will be happy.
So to land the plane on my first point, one way to start making the shift to becoming happy, lies in your environment and what relates to what you want.
Now to go deeper.
I do believe you should enjoy what you do and have compassion towards what you do, but social media tells us that we must stop working toward anything we aren't "passionate" about or isn't our "purpose."
Okay...this is where MY perception comes in...
Your "passion" and "purpose" can change. We are constantly evolving. What we are passionate about now, may not be the same down the road. Plus, I personally believe that you can grow to become passionate towards something as well.
In my opinion, we are currently distracted by these super shiny and exciting pictures and videos on social media that shows us what passion and purpose is...but that is all perception.
To go back to the different quotes I had seen this week, one side was perceived to be that you don't have to work hard to live and be happy, while the other stated you must work hard to be able to be happy.
Each. Person. Is. Different.
In the beginning, it was hard for me to be happy and positive...it was new to me. Then, once I started becoming happy, it was hard to figure out what I wanted. Now, it is hard to picture doing and seeing things that way that I used to.
Or....was it just "NEW?"
Hard is going to be perceived differently for everyone. We all have experienced different shit. Life has given us all different variations of adversity. We can all relate to struggle. None of us can relate to how that specific struggle made someone feel. Well...wait a minute...these are the same yet polar opposites, Coach Jayme.
This is where things are not so simple...yet we have a choice. WE control ourselves and how we react to our adversities and situations. WE choose to learn from it, play victim to it, see it as hard, see it as easy, see it as a blessing, or see it as a curse.
....but it all boils down to our own perception.
Let me explain.
For example, I was in an abusive relationship. There are many out there that have unfortunately experienced this as well and the severity could have been less or more than my situation, but we can view the memory differently. Yes, there will be similarities but we all still have unique emotions or perceptions toward the situation. We will conclude that story here and continue back to my point.
So in the best way that I can share this with you, we always have a choice. We can only control ourselves in any given moment...good or bad. We have a choice on how we will view what has happened to us. I don't believe there is a right or wrong way to do it because we all walk different journeys.
For me, I CHOOSE to see it as a beautiful thing. The lessons that I have learned, the people it has introduced me to, the strength it has given me, the people I am able to help, I wouldn't change any part of it.
It is a beautiful thing that we all have our own interpretation of things. That is how we learn. I have learned more from people who are most "different" from me. We don't know what we don't know. If you CHOOSE to be open, you can continue to broaden your perception and be able to be more understanding, patient, or most of all, learn more about yourself.
That, is the key. Learn about yourself. Spend time with yourself. Fix yourself. Grow within yourself. When you start your growth internally, the external growth will follow. This holds true in so many examples, I wouldn't even be able to list them all.
There is nothing wrong in going through phases that cause you to harden your heart and guard yourself from those around you. My request is that you don't allow yourself to stay in that place. Let your wound heal, free yourself from the wound, and allow it to open your mind and heart to the world around you.
We all have the privilege to see things how we choose. That choice of your perception is what creates the reality around you. So my pondering moment for you...How will you choose to perceive your world and the world around you?
Will you see the beauty? Will you learn something? Will you be a victim? Will you seek solution? Will you seek change? Will you seek blame? Will you seek happiness? Will you understand yourself better? Will you become more confident? Will you be more patient? Will you choose to love those who hurt you? Will you choose to forgive?
Do you want to know the best part? If you choose to view everything as something to learn from, you never have to worry about having it all figured out. It will all work itself out in the proper time.
Choose to be great today, my BeautyBeasts!
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And if you or anyone else is needing help getting to this point within yourself, please book your discovery call with me. I'd love the opportunity to help show you how to uncover the best version of yourself!
With So Much Love and Gratitude,