"I just don't have enough _______ to do this."
"If I didn't have to worry about ______, THEN I would be able to make ______ happen."
"That person is able to ______ because they don't have ______ like I do, so of course they are able to have/do what I don't have."
.....Does any of this sound familiar? Are you guilty of at LEAST one of these examples?
Please, for all of you perfect people that are acting like you haven't, don't even bother reading further.
Let's be real, guys. We all are guilty of justifying and making up excuses as to why we aren't able to achieve something. We do this because it is easier to come up with an explanation on why we can't do something, rather than putting in the effort to actually MAKE that something happen.
For those of you that don't know, I work heavily within the Special Needs community. In all honesty, unless it is because I HAVE to know for safety reasons, I have never once asked what any of my athletes' disabilities are. I refuse to let that stop them or not at least have them try what it is they are told they "can't" or "shouldn't" do.
If you have never given yourself the opportunity to be around these individuals, I would highly encourage it and I will passionately explain to you why.
NOTHING. STOPS. ANY. OF. THEM. FROM. DOING. ANYTHING.
I just spent this last weekend coaching at the Summer Olympic Games for Special Olympics. All ages...all disabilities...COMPETING! There are 60 YEAR-OLDS with "disabilities" that are out there running a 100 m dash!!! Now, I'm not trying to be ruthless here, but I definitely know a lot of 60 year-olds without disabilities that won't even go out there an make that attempt.
It ALWAYS starts and ends within your mind. So many of us are living with a fixed mindset and marinating in our Pity Party Sauce.
Sometimes, you have to attend that pity party. It's the lows that will help create the tenacity to persevere and grow to become better. The problem is, many stay there. They place blame on others and use excuses to keep them in this sauce.
There are so many things in life that we cannot control. Life is unfair, but guess what? It is that way for EVERYONE whether you place it in your mind to believe that or not. No one ever escapes struggle. When you compare yourself to those that seem like they have it "all together" or they just were dealt better cards, you're in your sauce.
Those individuals have just chosen to take the struggles and hardships and use them to their advantage. They chose to control what they could control. They kept positive thoughts in their heads despite in not being a fun situation to be in.
I have worked with cancer survivors, recovering alcoholics, those who have been physically and/or emotionally abused, those with mental "disabilities," those with physical "disabilities," those who have lost their jobs or significant others, those who are non-verbal...the list is endless. The separating moment to all of these is their mindset and their environment.
If you truly want something bad enough, you will find a way to make it happen. If you believe you can't do something-guess what- you probably won't.
It is easier to stay marinating in the sauce than it is to put the work in and change your way of thinking....but do you wanna know the most beautiful thing about this?
You. Don't. Have. To. Keep. Living. That. Way.
Whether you choose to shift that right now, in a couple of hours, days, weeks, or even years-YOU are the one that can and WILL do it.
So let me ask you again, are you still holding onto that excuse?
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